Mel
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I am feeling a bit blah at my current job. I know that it is something that I don't want to do for the rest of my life, was only ever a temp thing till the kids were in school. But honestly it is doing my head in. Each and every day I am sure I am becoming more and more brain dead. I am so bored and want a job that I have a passion for, something that makes me excited to get out of bed to go to.
I have been thinking a lot latley about this. I have a few ideas in mind.
I want to know if anyone here has made a big career change or returned to study, and how you managed it with the everyday family stuff?
Should I wait till they are both at school? Jessica starts next year, and finally Dylan will have his chance to sped his one on one time with me. Am I being selfish? should I just wait it out a few more years?
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SumKay
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In response to Mel
It really depends on what you think is best. I don't think it's selfish at all, especially if it is making you miserable. Does it show at home? If it is affecting your life at home, maybe it's time for a change.
I worked nights for a year and it has finally caught up with me. I stuck it out because I wanted to be home with the kids (well Kay anyway, and just picking/taking Summer to school). I just changed my schedule last week and now I will only be working 2 nights a week (maybe a saturday here and there) and the rest of the time I will be out by 2 to pick the kids up from school! It's very exciting and I can't wait to start that (a week and half to go)
You have to do what's best for you and your family. I understand the one on one with Dylan, but if you're not happy you're always going to have work on your mind 
I hope you find a solution 
 Worry looks around,Sorry looks back, and Faith looks up.
Winning the war doesn't mean who was right,
only who was left.
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 meg
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In response to SumKay
I went through the same thing. I know how you are feeling.
After Zach was born, I decided that I wasn't going back the place I worked. My heart wasn't in it and it made me ill just thinking about going back. We have been lucky enough that Aaron makes enough for me to stay home.
Going back to school has been hard. Even being home all day. I do all my classes online right now, but 6 months from now, I will have to go to class as I will have taken all the online classes available for my course of study.
I just have to dedicate time to studying everyday no matter what is going on. I have managed to balance it out though. I do a lot of my work at Zach's nap time while Luke is at school. Then I turn around and do another 2 hours worth after the boys are in bed.
I wondered the same thing about waiting till Zach was a bit older and in school, but then I realized that he is still getting one on one time with me and I would like to be able to actually start my new career when he starts school.
Good Luck!
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Mel
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In response to meg
thanks girls, so much to think about
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 Michelle
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In response to Mel
Are you going to share your ideas?
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Mel
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In response to Michelle
well one thing i have always wanted to be is a florist. Corny, but flowers make people happy, and I think it would really let my creative juices flow.
The other thing I am considering is looking into doing a real estate course. After dealing with the bunch of idiots that work in that industry I am sure I could do a better job. And well I love to look at peoples homes!
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Michelle
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LOL Have you thought about doing some sort of home study course while you work? And then when the time is right for your family you will already have the training you need to change your career 
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Mel
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I am starting to look into the home study option! 
But for now I think I will leave it till new year, as by then I should have a separate study, and won't have to use the computer in the dining room! To get that room though we have to rip out a kitchen, move into the second kitchen (my study) have the fist one replaced and move back to the fist one, then rip the seond kitchen out and then redo the whole room to make it a work space!
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Michelle
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In response to Mel
Sounds like a big job!
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EmilysMum
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In response to Michelle
I'm so glad you started this topic Mel because I have been going through the exact same thing. I've been working very late nights now for the past 4 years and I'm miserable as hell there! I would love a job that is fulfilling, where I feel that I'm actually making a difference and don't get spoken to like I'm worthless. I've made an appointment to speak with an advisor at Starting Point which is a place that helps you with courses and training etc. I really want to work in a school with toddlers/infants and have thought about it for the last couple of years but felt I was stuck in a rut. But now Emily's well settled in school, I really want to go for it. The only thing I can think of that's holding me back is the fact that we have absolutely nobody else to take Emily to school and pick her up. I'm sure her school used to have a breakfast and after school club so I'm really hoping they're still in place. I'm pretty doubtful though. It's just such a shame that I can't go for the job I'd love and am stuck in that dump because of a simple thing like that.
I hope your plans work out Mel. The florist thing sounds great, that would be an amazing career! And so nice and peaceful too. I guess we can all expect flowers in our SS this year lol.
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Mel
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In response to EmilysMum
lol. My plans are put on hold for now. We are in the middle of reno's and Scott goes away for work in 2 weeks. I am hoping that next year life will be more settled and I can look into a change of pace.
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SumKay
What? I have school age kids?
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In response to Mel
Well that's the thing with having small children I was just talking to a girl about it last night, her kids are all grown and she remembers the days where her life was put on hold to take care of her kids.....which is much needed and no regrets, just still that feeling of wanting to do something for you.....making any sense??
I hope you guys can get to do what you want to do. I'm so happy not to be working so many nights now, it's really nice to work during the day LOL I get to see my family more often
Worry looks around,Sorry looks back, and Faith looks up.
Winning the war doesn't mean who was right,
only who was left.
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EmilysMum
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In response to SumKay
You've hit the nail on the head there. If I was meant to be up and about at stupid o'clock I'd have been born a bat!
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